Monday, February 12, 2007

After A While

A long time ago I chanced upon this poem in a book. It reminded of what was it like to love and how we should love at all times.

I know that there are times when loving someone becomes difficult and that we are bound to get hurt from time to time. Then you realize that after a while you learn..that life does go on...

AFTER A WHILE (Veronica Shoftshall, 1971)

After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't always mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts

and presents aren't promises
and you begin to accept
your defeats
with your head up
and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman,
not the grief of a child

And you learn to build

all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground
is too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way
of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn

that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.

And you learn

that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn...

Then After "after a while" you change and build your hopes again. And pray that maybe this time it will be different. And you hold on to that hope because in the end that's all you really have..

AFTER "AFTER A WHILE"

After 'after a while'
You want to hold a hand not to chain a soul but
to enjoy its company,
and you want someone's lips to kiss,
not because you are lonely but because you are
happy, and you want to give presents
and you want to make promises.

After 'after a while'
You begin to accept your defeats like an adult,
but like a child, will want someone to listen
and care,
and you want someone who will build roads with
you today so maybe you can pave the way for your
future together.

After 'after a while'
You want someone's sunshine and warmth,
but also accept the rain and the cold,
and you want to give flowers picked from your
own garden.

And when your garden is picture perfect,
you want it to be more than a picture
even if it means having to be imperfect
because you want someone in it to stay and to
live.

Then you'll see that there is
such a thing as love...
and that you were made to live in someone else's
garden...
and you'll know that there is more to life than
yourself.

AND NOW...
You realize that no matter how tightly you hold,
if you're meant to let go, you can
And then you will understand that love
gives you reasons to understand
even the most complicated situations
And you will grow older believing that just
because you have convictions
doesn't mean you're always right

You will remember lips because of the smiles
that made your day,
the words that touched your soul, not only
because of the sweet kisses

And as you graciously accept defeat and absorb
the meaning of lessons
learned,
You feel that you are finally being the person
you never thought you'd be

So, armed with courage, strength and confidence,
you will face the world
head on...
With or without an army behind you
Because you know your worth and that alone is an
armor

With more heartbreaks you will cry
But after every heartache, you will rise

Life is a garden ... it takes long to make it
beautiful.
But it's always worth the wait..

***
this is for all of us who patiently waits
It will be worth the wait... keep the faith.

19 comments:

Judy Heinrich said...

I googled for this poem and ran across your blog. It is BEAUTIFUL and so well done. Definitely what I needed today to read. So thank you for that! :)

eunsuh said...

i chanced upon your blog and i think you wrote something really interesting!
It really felt good reading it.
Thanks!
You made a soul happy today!^^

Ashwin said...

i had gone thru this 1 in th chicken soup for the soul,
then i went searchin for this 1 again
& guess what???
i came accross this post of urs & this was really marvellous

Ashwin said...

i had gone thru this 1 in th chicken soup for the soul,
then i went searchin for this 1 again
& guess what???
i came accross this post of urs & this was really marvellous

Hazel said...

Thanks for visiting my blog and Im glad the post helped brighten your day :)

Anonymous said...

thanks for sharing...i needed this now. this is really comforting..thanks..

samantha said...

Im only 19 and just went through my first heartbreak i guess you could say. I was speaking to my grandma about it and she gave me a print out that was on her fridge of "After A While" she said that her mother who had went through a terrible relationship with her father found it in an article or something and always kept it with her. I know it touched my grandma and great grandma and now it did for me too.

ashcity2000 said...

this poem has made the most impact in my life than a lot of the other ones i read. came across it in 1991 and fell in love with it, but did not know the poet. your blog sure scans it well. thank u for the comment.

Anonymous said...

I love your "extension" of the poem. I have bookmarked your blog site. I will visit again. Thank you.

Aids Tecson said...

Hi Hazel, It's funny how I stumbled upon this entry of your blog. More than 15 years ago, when I was still in college, I wrote a poem and sent it to a few friends. Email was still very new then so I didnt really have a lot of people to send it to. Just today, I thought of googling the title, and lo and behold I didnt even know that it became viral. My name is Adrian and I am the original writer of After "After a While". I wrote it after reading the original "After a While" by Veronica Shoftshall.

Anyway, I'm glad it got to you and you liked it. Cheers!

Adrian Tecson
aidstecson[@]gmail.com

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J said...

My mom had this poem in her office for years and every time I visited I read it. I was happy to see the After "after a while". Made me so happy. I sent the whole thing to a few lady friends of mine. Every once in a while we need to be reminded of our own beauty and strength and this did just that. Thanks so much!

Julietta

Ashu said...

Life's truths clothed in beauty...

Anonymous said...

Definitely a beautiful poem, but I was disappointed when I discovered the supposed author (Veronica Shoffstall) plagiarized it from Jorge Luis Borges, an Argentine short-story writer, essayist, poet and translator born in Buenos Aires. He died in 1986. The original poem is written in Spanish and is called "APRENDIENDO". The funny thing is that Veronica can be found on LinkedIn and still claims that she wrote the poem!

jinx said...

love this poem ....i was searching for the one by veronica and found this one .....i think i will copy it...thanks

fatima yahaya said...

Yes, this is also my first time of seeing the after after a while, a friend sent after a while to me a couple of years ago when I was going through heart break. This is really consoling. I have shared with a lot of friends and they all like it. Thanks for the share.

fatima yahaya said...

Hi, I also know about this peom but never knew the original author, but nevertheless, I appreciate that veronica posted this. Thanks for the info

jacqui said...

reality in bold print...i got all buzzed when i saw the after after a while piece and then choked when i read the AND NOW part. so well put and so true. we live in love then leave love. we grow and learn that our convictions are narrowly limited to our personal truths or what we want to be true. it's all about learning to let go and starting again...stronger. Thanks for this